It is honestly so hard to be patient and wait for God’s timing on many things, especially when it comes to a boyfriend/husband. There are so many ways to compare ourselves and our lives and feel like we are behind the curve. He knows what is best. He has plans for us. Plans that are so much better than anything we could have planned ourselves. There are certain attributes that we, as Christian women, should look for in a godly man.
A Christian Man will:
Put the Needs of Others Ahead of His Own. Philippians 2:3-4; Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
He loves others and cares for others, even when they are hard to love and may not reciprocate that love.
Rejoices in His Relationship with Christ. John 15:11; These things I have spoken to you, so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full.
Maintains Proper Relationships. Hebrews 12:14; Pursue peace with all men…
He is able to listen to others without feeling threatened or insecure. He works to forgive others as he has been forgiven.
Refuses to Jump Ahead of God’s Timing. Psalm 37:7; Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him…
He chooses not to be impulsive but waits on The Lord’s timing. He is not eager to jump to something else without waiting for being in God’s timing.
Seeks to Meet the Practical Needs of Others. Ephesians 4:32; Be kind to one another, tender-hearted…
He is not self-centered and he makes time to help others who are in need. He wants to help others whether that be through his time, money, energy, or resources.
Stands for What is Right. Romans 2:9-10; There will be…glory and honor and peace to everyone who does good…
Follows Through on His God-given Responsibilities. 1 Corinthians 4:2; Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.
He uses the talents and the passions he has been given to help further the Kingdom of The Lord. He is not boastful or overly confident, but he trusts in The Lord’s plans. He does not wish for something more but is a diligent steward of what The Lord has given him.
Understands the Importance of Feelings and Emotions. Colossians 3:12; So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
He knows how to share his emotions and feelings, but he does not become a doormat. He takes the initiative to be a leader, but he tempers with it to be gentle.
Flees Temptations to Compromise. Proverbs 25:28; Like a city that is broken into and without walls is a man who has no control over his spirit.
He refuses to be in situations that can lead to compromise. He does not establish or create friendships that could lead him more astray. He does not allow anger to destroy him or let jealousy to build up.
Not every Christian guy will meet all of these characteristics all of the time. We are human and we do fall short. However, these characteristics should be what you look for, what a godly man should look like and act like. Keep these in mind when you meet someone. Do they met these criteria?